To calm someone who is angry, agitated, or upset by speaking to them or behaving gently. The goal is to ease negative emotions such as anger or fear.
example
Mit leisen Worten versuchte die Mutter, das weinende Kind zu besänftigen.
With quiet words, the mother tried to soothe the crying child.
Usage tips
Word family
The verb 'besänftigen' (to appease / soothe) is derived directly from the adjective 'sanft' (gentle). The prefix 'be-' turns it into an action directed at someone or something: to make someone gentle or calm.
EXAMPLE
Er versuchte, die aufgebrachte Menge zu besänftigen.
He tried to appease the angry crowd.
Use with the accusative
'Besänftigen' (to appease / soothe) is a transitive verb and always needs a direct object in the accusative. You ask: 'Wen oder was besänftigen?' (whom or what to appease/soothe?)
EXAMPLE
Die Tierpflegerin konnte den verängstigten Hund besänftigen.
The animal keeper was able to soothe the frightened dog.
Elevated style
This verb belongs to a more formal or written style of language. It sounds more refined and is used less often in everyday colloquial speech.
EXAMPLE
Der Diplomat versuchte, die angespannte Situation mit sorgfältig gewählten Worten zu besänftigen.
The diplomat tried to soothe the tense situation with carefully chosen words.
Compare with
antonym
besänftigen vs aufregen
to upset / excite
'aufregen' and 'besänftigen' are clear opposites. 'aufregen' means that someone is made angry, nervous, or worried. 'besänftigen' means that you calm an agitated or angry person down again. So the words describe two opposite directions: one makes the feelings stronger and more unsettled, while the other makes them weaker and calmer. Typical uses are 'jemanden aufregen' (to upset someone) in situations involving anger or stress, and 'jemanden besänftigen' (to soothe someone) in situations involving conflict, fear, or anger.
besänftigen
Nach dem Streit hat die Mutter das weinende Kind besänftigt.
After the argument, the mother soothed the crying child.
aufregen
Die lange Wartezeit im Krankenhaus regt die Gäste sehr auf.
The long wait at the hospital really upsets the guests.